When reading How to Build a Fashion Icon: Notes on Confidence from the World’s Only Image Architect (Recorded Books) by Law Roach, I strongly sensed his sincerity in desiring to help support people in their journey to developing confidence in their fashion and overall. He also has an incredible roster of clients, past and present, in which he divulges on some of these highly-ranked looks. This is one of those books that is not necessarily meant to finish in one sitting as there are exercises for effectively trying clothes on and evaluating the pieces in your closet. Without giving away too much, here are three of my takeaways (at the moment) from his life:
- He was far from a straight-A student. When his best friend at the time was offered the opportunity to take a standardized test due to her being considered “college bound”, he made a big deal about it, expressing his frustration and disappointment until he was granted the same option. He ended up scoring higher than his friend. Being underestimated was the fuel he needed to work hard and apply himself. And yes, he enrolled and graduated from college.
- He learned not to be the “$75 makeup girl.” During his come-up, he would see a talented makeup artist at many of the events and gigs he booked–until he didn’t. When he finally had a chance to reconnect with her, she basically revealed that she could not afford to stay in the business, which was disheartening to hear. She kept her services at the same price, burdened by clients consistently telling her they heard she charged a specific amount to another. It was during this moment that Law vowed not to charge the same low rate anymore, understanding that each work experience and growth in his career called for a new and higher price point. He embraces his worth and professional evolution.
- He disagrees with people not sharing their dreams widely. Many advise against telling people your dreams and goals before they materialize sometimes due to something called the “evil eye,” which refers to the negative energy that can be projected by others, and/or because of embarrassment such as the common phrase “egg on your face” if it does not materialize, which reflects the fear of looking foolish in the eyes of others. However, Law makes a valid point about the importance of vulnerability and openness. By sharing your desires, you open yourself up to possibilities that may not have been considered before. Think of it as “closed mouths don’t get fed.” Emphasizing and vocalizing your aspirations can invite unexpected support and opportunities that lead you closer to achieving your goals.
Which of these takeaways most resonate with you and why? Another reason I agree with the third takeaway is because when it is all said and done, what’s meant for you will not pass you by. So if you think you didn’t get the results you wanted whether personally or professionally because you expressed that desire to someone, I encourage you to try another thought.
Furthermore, by voicing your dreams, you can also inspire others to realize and/or share theirs. When (some) people know what you want and like, they will remember in a time of need. Let’s say Kristina knows someone who is looking for a weight trainer. You happen to know Kristina and have shared with her that you are thinking of opening a gym–or maybe you just often talk about fitness. In that conversation Kristina is having with that individual, you may be top of mind for those seeking a weight trainer or gym.
It’s more about thinking what can go right, instead of what could go wrong.
If you are seeking other books about and/or related to fashion, check out Before I Let You Go by our friends Angelo Ellerbee and Supreme Models by Marcellas Reynolds.